Did you know that a child’s passing experience can be managed in a healthy way?
No matter what age your child or children are, it’s important to know how you can face the idea of death with them.
Discussing death can be scary regardless of age, so we’ve broken down the steps you can take in helping your child deal with the passing of a loved one.
Read on to find out how you can broach the subject of death with your child!
Use Simple Words To Talk About Death
Plain explanations are best, such as “This person died, that means he will no longer be alive. They can’t move, hear us, or answer us.” When broaching the subject, start with age-appropriate questions like “Have you ever thought about what happens when someone we know dies?”
If the child is familiar with the concept of death, ask questions like “What would you like to know about it?” Offer reassurance that you are there and help them understand that death is a natural part of life.
Listen And Comfort
Listen to the child and be present. Provide comfort by letting them know that it is ok to feel whatever they are feeling and that you are there to support them. Avoid the use of euphemisms and instead be honest and direct in your language, emphasizing that the person who passed has left a beautiful memory in the hearts of their family and friends.
Express any spiritual beliefs you have on the subject in a gentle and non-judgmental manner. Offer the child tools for coping, such as writing a letter to their loved one or making a special memorial.
Tread Carefully When Discussing God And Heaven
It is important to emphasize that God is not responsible for death and that death is a natural part of life. In addition, it is important to explain the concept of Heaven in an age-appropriate manner to the child. Parents may use metaphors and stories in order to help the child conceptualize the idea of Heaven, where a person goes after death and is reunited with their loved ones once again.
Remember that the discussion should be tailored to the child’s coping abilities and should not be too complicated or graphic. Through providing reassurance and having an open dialogue about death, parents can help their children cope with their grief in a healthy way.
Talk About Funeral Arrangements
Start by reminding them why it is important to talk about the deceased and funeral arrangements and that the conversation is out of respect and love. Talk gently and openly about burial, cremation service, and funeral arrangements, and lead with an example of how the deceased was important to you.
Explain that these decisions were all made respectfully by their family and that the funeral would be a way for everyone to say goodbye. Make sure to listen to any questions or worries the child may have.
Understanding a Child’s Perception of the Subject of Death
Death should be discussed with kids openly and honestly. Being honest about any emotions and acknowledging their loss can help a child to grieve and move forward. To help broach the subject of death with a child, it is important to speak in age-appropriate language. Allow your child to ask questions and be patient with their responses.
Start the conversation today and ensure a safe, secure, and comfortable environment.
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